Self Esteem Therapy For Women


If you answer yes to any of these questions, self-esteem therapy may be right for you.

  • Are you struggling with a low self-esteem?

  • Do you often feel self-doubt or a lack of confidence?

  •  Are you experiencing anxiety and worry aroun!d how people see you?

  • Do you tend to avoid things and not bother trying due to fear of being judged or failing?

  • Is your inner voice often critical?

Self-Esteem and Self-confidence are NOT the Same

The terms self-esteem and self-confidence are often used interchangeably when referring to how you feel about yourself. Although they are very similar, they are two different concepts. It is important to understand their roles when looking to improve your overall sense of self.

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself overall; how much esteem, positive regard or self-love you have. Self-esteem develops from experiences and situations that have shaped how you view yourself today.

Self-confidence is how you feel about your abilities and can vary from situation to situation. I may have healthy self-esteem, but low confidence about situations involving math (this is true).

When you love yourself, your self-esteem improves, which makes you more confident. When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of esteem. You can do work on both at the same time.

Most people will have periods in their life where they question their own self worth and struggle with periods a low self-esteem.

Everyone experiences ups and downs in life; dealing with hardships and challenges is unavoidable. In these times, it is common for people to start to feel self doubt and lose confidence. Life can bring a lot of pressure to perform well, leaving you in a state of wondering how capable you really are.

It can be difficult to work towards your goals. When you hit a bump and life does not go the way you hoped, it is natural for this to lead to self-esteem struggles. Examples include not getting into the college you want, not getting hired for a job you applied to, dealing with a breakup, comparing yourself to others and feeling that you fall short. This can lead to the above-mentioned consequences that make it hard to enjoy life.

It is important to work on self-esteem building so that you can find the satisfaction in life you are looking for. Self-esteem therapy can help do this.

Many people struggle with chronic, life long low self-esteem. 

Your behavior patterns make all the difference!

An indicator of low self-esteem is a lack of good personal boundaries.

How good are you at setting boundaries?  Ask yourself these questions:

  • How often do I worry about what other people think?
  • Do I feel guilty for wanting to do things by myself?
  • When did I last say no to someone?
  • When did I last say yes to something I secretly didn’t want to do?
  • Do I feel like I deserve respect or I have to earn it by being ‘nice’?
  • What are the five rules to being my friend? Do I know them quickly and easily?
  • What are the 10 things I most like to do with my time? Can I quickly come up with them?
  • What are the 10 things I hate doing? Do I even have strong feelings about things?
  • When I think about saying no to someone, do I feel afraid? Or calm inside?
Most people who struggle with boundaries struggle with knowing who they are and what they want. Which can leave them feeling frustrated, wanting to set personal limits but not knowing which ones to set.

Boundaries are the Foundation of Good Self-Esteem.

Setting clear personal boundaries is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive and caring. They set the limits for acceptable behavior from those around you, determining whether they feel able to put you down, make fun, or take advantage of your good nature.

If you often are made uncomfortable by others’ treatment of you, it may be time to reset these boundaries to a more secure level. Weak boundaries leave you vulnerable and likely to be taken for granted or even damaged by others. On the other hand, a healthy self-respect will produce boundaries which show you deserve to be treated well. They also will protect you from exploitative relationships and help you avoid getting too close to people who don’t have your best interests at heart.

Help! i need to set healthy boundaries. what do I do?

How Can Self-Esteem Therapy Help Me?

You don’t have to struggle through life with a low self-esteem and be paralyzed by a low self-opinion. You can learn to feel better about who you are. If you decide that therapy is right for you, I can help you understand where the negativity comes from and provide you with concrete skills that allow you to view yourself in a more positive light.

Oftentimes our negative opinions of ourselves come from feedback and criticisms we received from others throughout our life. Therefore, the inner critic is not completely your own voice. In our sessions, we will work to find the root cause of your struggle with self-esteem. I will help you figure out the different “voices” you are hearing and learn to find your voice. I will also provide you with tools to help with self-esteem building. We will work together to help your inner-dialogue be one that is more encouraging and positive.

Still have some questions about self-esteem therapy?

What if I have a difficult time focusing on me and think therapy would be really uncomfortable? 

It is true that in therapy, the focus is 100% on you and your needs. While this sort of attention can be difficult, many people who express that worry to me find that it gets easier with each session. Oftentimes, just getting through the hurdle of the first session creates more comfort with the process. I am also here to help you through this process and will work with you on your needs.

What if therapy makes me feel worse?

You might fear that putting focus week after week on your negative thought patterns will just bring more negativity. If you are reading this page, you have reached a point that led you to do research on your options. Not addressing a problem immediately will likely just make it worse over time.  That being the case, it is beneficial to take the leap now and remember that therapy puts you in a position where you have more control over your thoughts and feelings.

Additionally, my approach is strengths based. We will not only focus on the negative it is an equally important part of the process to also focus on positives in your life.

What if I feel a little hopeless?

That question is a consequence of your self-esteem struggles, that you can only address by working towards self-esteem building. When your view of yourself is so low, it’s almost impossible to handle on your own and it leads to this pessimism. It is difficult to feel optimistic when the issue is that you feel bad about yourself.  Deciding to come to therapy is the best way you can handle this. It is necessary to find outside help because your internal dynamic is too negatively biased. Therapy will help you latch onto any bit of optimism and motivation so that you can put the work in and build your self-esteem

You don’t have to struggle through life with a low self-esteem and be paralyzed by a low self-opinion. You can learn to feel better about who you are. Don’t be what stands in your own way!

It can be difficult and feel lonely when you do not have a positive view of yourself. How you feel about yourself and your thoughts, beliefs, and opinions about who you are create your level of self-esteem. When that level is low, your core beliefs about yourself tend to be mostly negative. Your thoughts tend to be self-critical, self-blaming, and self-doubting.

How A Low Self-Esteem Can Impact Everyday Life

A low self-esteem can often lead to avoidance. You may try to stay away from any situation where you feel there is a risk of being judged. This can impact many aspects of your life. For example, when it comes to your career, the fear of not being good enough can prevent you from pursuing your dreams. This can leave you feeling stuck and unsatisfied.

It can also be hard to make meaningful connections with other people. Reaching out to others can feel daunting, making it a struggle to form new relationships and/or maintain old ones. You might feel hesitant to reach out to your family and friends because you feel ashamed that you have nothing new and exciting to report.

Often, it can be especially hard when it comes to romantic relationships; putting yourself out there in the dating world can feel frightening. When you struggle with a low self-esteem, you oftentimes work hard to gain validation from others. This can cause people-pleasing behaviors, leading you to lose sight of your own wants and needs.

Potential Symptoms of a Low Self-Esteem

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Body image issues

  • Ruminating on negative thoughts

  • Feeling not good enough, unlovable, and/or worthless

  • Self-Consciousness

  • Oversensitivity to criticism

  • Loneliness

  • Discounting success

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